If you’ve ever felt like money is more emotional than logical, you’re right.
At The Mint Penny, we don’t just talk budgets. We talk about why. Why do you freeze? Why do you sabotage. Why do you feel stuck even when you’re doing better?
Because behind every money habit…
There’s a nervous system response.
Here are 8 questions real women ask themselves and what they reveal about our relationship with money, safety, and self-worth.
💭 1. “Why do I always feel broke, even when I’m not?”
Because your nervous system is stuck in survival mode.
You’re used to stretching every dollar, so abundance feels unfamiliar even unsafe.
💭 2. “Why do I feel safer being broke than having money?”
Sometimes, we self-sabotage because struggle is what we know.
Success brings pressure. Having money brings decisions, and that can trigger fear.
💭 3. “Why do I spend money when I’m stressed, even though I know better?”
Spending isn’t a weakness.
It’s a coping mechanism your brain uses to regulate stress, not to make logical choices.
💭 4. “Why do I feel like I can’t rest until I fix my finances?”
Because you’ve linked your self-worth to productivity.
Until the 'threat' of money problems is gone, your body won’t let you relax.
💭 5. “Why do I sabotage myself when I start doing well with money?”
Because success doesn’t feel familiar.
Your brain may subconsciously recreate chaos because that’s what it knows best.
💭 6. “Why does thinking about money make me feel physically sick?”
That’s not in your head.
It’s your nervous system responding to fear, failure, or financial trauma. That nausea? It’s real.
💭 7. “Why do I freeze up when someone asks me about my financial goals?”
You’ve spent so long focused on surviving that dreaming doesn’t feel safe.
Goal-setting requires emotional space, and trauma steals that space.
💭 8. “Why do I feel guilty making more money than my family or friends?”
That’s loyalty confusion.
You’re afraid success will disconnect you from the people you love. But growth isn’t betrayal, it’s permission.
🎙️ Want the full breakdown of each question?
✨ I go deeper into the psychology, patterns, and healing on TikTok and on the Mint Penny podcast.
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🔗 Listen to the Podcast → The Mint Penny: Financial Therapy for Women
🧠 Closing:
These questions aren’t just about money.
They’re about your story, your survival, and your healing.
If you’ve asked any of these silently in your head, you’re in the right place.
We don’t shame. We don’t guilt. We go deeper.
Because at The Mint Penny, every dollar deserves a plan.
And you deserve peace.
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This post after reading felt so freeing. I finally feel seen.